Yesterday, I reached out to an established writer that I barely know for some advice. She was the editor of the compilation book in which my short personal essay was published last year.
I was a little nervous about it but thought since she was also once a lawyer and has small kids she could relate to my situation. I was pleasantly surprised to hear back from her so quickly with some helpful suggestions.
My first question was about who should read my material and give me feedback. A few friends have offered to read my work as I go along and give me feedback. Also, my husband is a great writer and I wanted to use him too. She said that I shouldn't do either of these and that instead I should find a writer or teacher to do professional editing. I think this might be the best thing. I was hesitant getting my friends involved because of the mixing-friends-and-business issues. Also, my poor husband is so busy and I don't think I want to have the little time we have with each other be filled up with writing critiques.
The second thing she said that I found interesting was that most of writing is re-writing. I'd heard that before but it really resonated with me this time. I've been writing a little more each day but I've still been too hesitant to just write because my thoughts are not complete and my sentences not right. I need to just get the stories and thoughts on paper and go from there.
The last thing she said was surprising. She said that when I was ready, she could help me find an agent. Wow. That's pretty generous considering I don't know her from Adam.
Each day I move a little closer to making it happen! :)